Thursday, July 24, 2008
Wednesday, July 23, 2008
Monday, July 21, 2008
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Wednesday, July 16, 2008
Me to Devo "My name is Devin. I dress well and don't lose things." (said in snarky voice).
Steve as he was playing with my PointRoll Fat Boy: "Inverted Downward Dog w/Turkey Bone". Try that one on you yoga freaks...... Advanced Pose: "Inverted Downward Dog w/Turkey Bone on Balanced Cacti."
that's all......how boring are we....
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Tuesday, July 15, 2008
iPhones & 'fat suits'
If you are there, check out the thing about Fidel Castro.....it's also rather wrong in that twisted, yes I am laughing sort of way...
Saturday, July 12, 2008
So, here I am. Kate Pendley. A non-smoker. I can safely and comfortably say that now, as I feel I am very much on my way to having smoking be apart of my past. I am eagerly looking forward to my 6 month anniversary, which will be at the beginning of next month. I am hoping to do something special with friends that really marks the occassion.
Looking back to 'hell week', I guess I am little surprised I actually made it. 2 weeks seemed like such a mountain to climb back then, as I counted every single hour of not having a smoke. Now, there are days I have completely forgotten that I was ever a smoker and only occasionally does the urge to grasp my crutch strike.
When people asked how I did it and did it successfully, I give them these tips (maybe a couple will work for you, but, remember, everyone is a little different):
(1) Right after you stop smoking: find a sponsor. Mine, oddly enough, was a smoker. But he was also a recovering alcoholic and friend who I could be very candid with. During the first month, his support was critical to my success, so I recommend that if you are quitting smoking, find someone you can trust outside your normal circle of friends and family to work with and be there for you. Make sure they are honest and have been down the road of addiction, as a non-addict will not really understand what you are going through.
(2) After you make it through Hell Week (days 1-7), adopt the N.O.P.E. principle: Not One Puff Ever. Think about this. It's important.
(3) Use various methods, if you have to, in any way that you need to as to get through the first 30 days. I ignored instructions on certain boxes and used a different approach to 'stepping down' off nicotine in the long run. Do what you have to. Don't feel confined or pressured to go one way or another. Your way will be the best way in the end. Mine was: Get a bad head cold, Cinnamon Nicorette Gum (lots of), Cinnamon Nicorette Gum (a little less), Chantix and then 100% just me.
(4) Write. Write it all down. This will be your screaming and bitching and yelling and freaking out -- without dragging others into your emotional turmoil. This is a safe way to verbally express the feelings you are feeling without hurting or insulting others. I found it kept my bitch quotient to a minimum on most days.
(5) At week one, figure out why you think you smoke. At week 2, add to that list. At day 60, make you final list and open up a healthy dialogue with yourself about why you smoked and what factors, as a non smoker, you will continue to have to deal with.
(6) Expect to feel lonely. Figure out ways to deal with this. Expect to feel depressed. Figure out if you have always been depressed or if this is just part of letting go.
(7) Feel very, very proud of yourself and remind yourself constantly of how well you have done. Even if others stop noticing, self-congratulate every now and then as this is really a hard thing to do and you deserve a huge hug for even trying.
(8) Know that this is a process. Lots will be learned and lots will be gained, as well as lost. Welcome the process and remove any ideas of instant success.
(9) You are your ultimate source of strength. Every minute you resist counts. Every day you don't smoke compounds with every other. If you need a boost of encouragement, go to a doctor. 9 times out of 10, they will say "good for you, keep it up" when you tell them you quit.
(10) Become a person who HATES starting over. Of all things, this is the one that kept me on track the most. One puff: start counting from "0".....sorry, but there is no cheating when it comes to quitting. This has kept me 100% smoke free.Kate Pendley has NOT smoked: 3,910 cigarettes.
What is up with the herd mentality when it comes to the iPhone? Some have called it gadget fever, but I really think it is more similar to panic and hysteria or herd behavior. I am trying to figure oout WHY people would rush to buy something that they know will be restocked and continually sold. Seriously. Why would you wait in an 8 hour line. This isn't a limited release product. This is not one-time-only. This IS the phone.
The only people who I think have a duty to wait in those lines are reviewers, journalists and the like, because they need to publish their experiences as soon as possible. The rest of us....we just have issues with delay of gratification. American's are completely insane when it comes to this. But, do we not see how corporations (even the ones we like, such as Apple) play up our hysteria for their own profitability? Get a clue: they are playing you. This is marketing. Not an actual desire for the product. Go Apple. Shame on you people.
Even after the systems started crashing, people still didn't turn away and 'come back later'. This is why I call it heard behavior. Ever try and direct a panicked group of cattle? You can't. Just like you can't convince someone to reasonably look at their wants and the current impediments to that want and ask them to make sound decisions.
This panic over the iPhone 3G has actually made me not want one. I owned two of the previus iPhones and loved every minute of owning them. But, this iPhone 3G hysteria is a little out of control. Hello: it's ONLY faster and cheaper. They did not reinvent the phone. The initial wave of response for the phone a year ago was acceptable: it had a curiosity component to the madness. It was completely unique and never seen before. But, faster and cheaper as reasons for an even bigger hysteria...
Was the price point reduction such a huge drop as to create new hysterical masses? Do most of these people plan on pulling out their stop watches when Safari serves up content? Um....no.
So again, good job Apple and the iphone 3G for showing us just how insane US consumers can be.
Wow! I am now returning to this post days later. I don't even remember posting this. I think I was having a moment where I thought if I wrote and expose about my sleeplessness, that it would magically disappear.
I know I was sleep deprived. The title to the blog sucks.
Insomnia is not cured by blogging. Bummer.
Monday, July 7, 2008
Now at 30 years old and faced with the realization that we have, possibly, moved backwards in our efforts to equalize the workplace, I can see why many people have such a hard time with my personality. It's not that of a typical woman's. Well, it is and it isn't. See, I have met and worked for some pretty shrewd women who would successfully destroy your career if you even dared to tell them to 'soften up' or 'smile more'. But these women were in positions of critical power. They worked for industries that actually required one to draw strict lines between the personal and business. The ones that required you make a direct point. The ones that require you to remove 99% of the bullshit (aka 'being nice') and get the damn job done.
I am tough. I am intense. I am candid and dislike transparency. I don't think 'flare' defines a person, but I think their integrity does. I think this world is in desperate need of more people with more integrity. I think that people are, inherently, intolerant of things they are not used to and that it is especially apparent when applied to unique individuals.
There are many people who are repeatedly misunderstood in this world. They are usually the bright, the driven, the strong and the wise. The are labeled 'arrogant', 'passionate' (yes, this is quickly becoming a bad word in HR), 'closed off' and 'holier-than-thou'.
I heard a line from a TV show that stirred both laughter and a sense of sadness in me. After an artistic hissy fit, the Pope commented on Leonardo Devinci as "We forgive him because he is brilliant. Whatever that means..."
Exactly. Brilliance takes many forms, but no one person is the same. The work place is becoming less and less tolerant of the traits of the brilliant except in a few certain professions and a few certain positions. For example, my experience in media and advertising is that if you are (1) male *and* (2) a 'creative' or 'technical genius' than all personality flaws are welcome, excused and forgiven. If, however, you are in management and are a woman then you had better expect that you must always be brilliant, always be nice and always be what people expect.
Here's my belief: the innovators, the reformers, the leaders of change.....they pissed people off. They had to in order to shake things up. In order to get people to see a new perspective and challenge what we understand to be true. Because we know that very few truths today will be the truths of tomorrow.
So, here's the deal with me. No, I am not a water cooler conversationalist and my desk does not have flare. I keep my personal life at home as much as possible and I think that my job at work is to do my job. I know when to be thankful and and I know when to be truthful. I will always pick kindness-when-needed over niceness-when-expected. My intelligence and need to express it is as much a part of me as is breathing. I may be direct and, sometimes, strict, but I also am known to be incredibly generous when it is appropriate to do so.
I am different. So are many, many women who, like me, get asked for an unequal exchange: all of your talent for none of our understanding. Add on top of that the long-standing, general inequities that still exist for women in the workplace and you have quiet a little predicament, that leads many of us strong women to become more bitter from the exploitations of our talents and more saddened by our inability to just be shown a little more understanding and a little less lecturing.
In the end, I only know one thing. I should have been a fucking lawyer.
-this is kate pendley signing off.
Friday, July 4, 2008
The 4th always makes me miss Boston, and right now I am very jealous of all of you standing on the shore of the Charles, listening to the Pops and watching the brilliant display. One of the best nights of my life (and one of the times I truly felt the most connected to so many strangers) was with Melissa and Troy when we ran down to the river to catch the show. This, of course, was less than a year after 911, so I think it was an incredibly emotional time for everyone. Nonetheless, if I had the money and the time, I would be there right now watching the show and breathing in that city I love to love.
I don't mean to start any wars here, but no city does the 4th like Boston. Last year I watched it on TV and...yes...cried.
If you are ever get the chance, hit that city up on the 4th. You'll be so glad you did.